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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team Wife here.  Your mom provided thousands and thousands of dollars worth of free childcare to your sister.  (Say, 2 kids x 5 years each x $16,000 = $160k at a minimum).  She can pay for a service now. [/quote]

Best post so far. [/quote]

Don’t forget MIL was collecting disability while caring for these children.[/quote]

Well, there is that.  Sounds like MIL was happy to spend time with her grandchildren.  She was allowed to do that and she did.[/quote]

While on fraudulent “I can’t work” taxpayer dole, so actually we all paid everything![/quote]

She was allowed to visit with her grandchildren and didn't collect a dime doing it so I'm not seeing the fraud.  Not your beeswax so buzz out.[/quote]

Are you OP? You seem mentally ill. Where do you live again? Doubt it is dc area.[/quote]

No, the insane thing is you yammering on about some childcare this poor, sick woman did back in 2006 or whatever.  Irrelevant.[/quote]

NP.  You are beginning to sound more and more crazy.  Either you are the SIL/OP or you’re projecting a lot.  Your viewpoints don’t make sense, especially with regards to accountability for the SIL.  Something is not making since with how much you’re defending the SIL and trashing OP’s wife.  
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I am neither SIL or Op.  In fact, when this sort of thing occurred in my own family I was a single, working woman with a demanding job, an apartment I shared with my boyfriend at the time and I had been out of my parents house for years, completely self sufficient.  The reason I helped is because I could see with my own eyes that my parents *needed* help.  I didn't start saying "Well Sue should help you because you helped her with X, Y, Z umpteen years ago" or "Bill should do it because Dad loaned him money and gave him a car X number of years ago".  When people start doing that it totally detracts from the energy needed to put into solving the crisis.

I'm not going to spend an ounce of my energy rehashing who did what for whom in 2006.  It's pointless and it does NOTHING to solve the problem.[/quote]

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