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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think one reason I feel so upset and bothered by this is that I know what happens to you, mentally and emotionally, when you get ganged up on in this kind of way. When it happened to me, I became depressed, self-loathing to a disturbing degree. I started self-harming, my husband worried that I would do something terrible. If I hadn't been a mom, I would have worried too -- caring what happened to my kids and needing to protect them from the situation got me through.

The Vox piece upthread about Isabel Fall brought all that back. Getting rejected and humiliated in this way (and I wasn't dealing with a Twitter mob of thousands, just a small group of friends and professional acquaintances upon whom I'd based a huge part of my sense of belonging in the world) is life changing. I do worry for Dawn, and part of what makes me so angry is that people don't seem to understand that no matter how annoying someone is, they don't deserve to want to die because of it. Like you don't have to punish socially awkward people for being socially awkward -- it punishes itself! You can just leave people like this alone and move on with your life instead of giving into your perverse need to crap all over them until they hate themselves as much as you hate them.

Anyway.[/quote]

I get you, PP.

I'm the PP who wants to learn about writing and when I read the Isabel Fall story, it really bothered me. I still think about her a lot, and hope she is maybe some day okay, some day feels safe again. I'm socially awkward (neurodiverse, woohoo lack of social skills) and I relate so hard to being the vulnerable awkward one on the margins, who doesn't say the right things, and can't navigate the unspoken rules. I have spent a lot of my life teaching myself scripts and rules that I need to use to get by, but these situations don't have social scripts you can teach yourself. I'm sure I'm probably too wrapped up in all of this, but it hits deeply, bringing up years of trying to figure out just how people manage to be in-group, something that has been an endless mystery since childhood.[/quote]

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