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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think one reason I feel so upset and bothered by this is that I know what happens to you, mentally and emotionally, when you get ganged up on in this kind of way. When it happened to me, I became depressed, self-loathing to a disturbing degree. I started self-harming, my husband worried that I would do something terrible. If I hadn't been a mom, I would have worried too -- caring what happened to my kids and needing to protect them from the situation got me through.

The Vox piece upthread about Isabel Fall brought all that back. Getting rejected and humiliated in this way (and I wasn't dealing with a Twitter mob of thousands, just a small group of friends and professional acquaintances upon whom I'd based a huge part of my sense of belonging in the world) is life changing. I do worry for Dawn, and part of what makes me so angry is that people don't seem to understand that no matter how annoying someone is, they don't deserve to want to die because of it. Like you don't have to punish socially awkward people for being socially awkward -- it punishes itself! You can just leave people like this alone and move on with your life instead of giving into your perverse need to crap all over them until they hate themselves as much as you hate them.

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I feel like this is one reason I have always consciously/subconsciously avoided group friendship scenarios. Too scary to contemplate being turned on by a whole group, and I think I always sensed that I would end up ostracized if I tried to enter a group. I am very happy with the close 1:1 friendships I have, happy to meet my friends' friends every so often. But getting enmeshed in a "friendship group" ... shudder. [/quote]

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