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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No, I’m not offended. I work and have childcare and I still feel this way. I’d prefer to be the one at home raising ’my kids but a) I’m not comfortable with the financial trade offs (including a significant reduction in the quality of education we’d be able to access if I didn’t work) and b) [b]most careers, including mine, are difficult to return to after a gap at home caring for children. 
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Unless you have a very high earning spouse and can stay home without financial sacrifice, the decision about whether to stay home with kids or work and find childcare is a very difficult one.[/quote]

Same. The choice to stay home full time would have meant giving up my career completely. I didn't get a PhD just to walk away from all of it. I did "mommy track" myself so I have a lot less on my plate than if I had aimed for the stars. But it is not an option in my field to just take off a few years and expect to get any kind of full time job upon return. There are too many highly qualified candidates who kept their foot on the gas pedal.[/quote]

This is the real conversation we should be having.  People are living longer and longer - why can’t people take part of their “retirement” at the front end of their career and make up those years on the back end?  (eg why can’t you work from 25-35, stay home 35-45, work 45-75 rather than work 25-65 then stay home forever?)[/quote]

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