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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The baby is likely full term. Did OP say they had only been dating 6 months? Even if the baby is only 32 weeks, how is it even possible that the baby is full term?

OP should not be supporting the mother, buying things, promising a credit card until there is a.a paternity test and b.a decision whether to keep it or give it up for adoption. The OP is giving the mother a false sense of how easy and workable it would be to keep the baby. If the mother isn’t ready to be a single mother both financially and from a maturity standpoint then she should seriously consider adoption. [/quote]

Any woman who is considering relinquishing a baby for adoption for purely financial reasons needs to know she is sentencing herself to a lifetime of emotional trauma and regret for a problem that is very likely both temporary and solvable.  And there is no guarantee that the adoptive family will be emotionally healthy, financially stable, or loving.  Once she signs the relinquishment, everything is completely out of her control, including whether a family that promised her open adoption might immediately close it.  Might get divorce.  Might die in an accident leaving the baby to people she didn’t choose.

Adoption is NOT a solution to temporary financial challenges.  It is permanent trauma to the mother and most likely significant trauma to the child as well.

(Read Relinquished by Gretchen Sisson for harrowing data about the fate of most relinquishing mothers.)

OP is absolutely doing the right thing here.  Even if this baby is not her grandchild, she is being kind and generous to a needy mother and completely innocent infant.

If anyone reading this is considering adoption because of financial challenges, please google Saving our Sisters, a nonprofit created by relinquishing mothers which helps women considering relinquishment get financial and logistical support to preserve their families.  [/quote]

Oh lookie pro birth maga has entered the chat .

Screw off saving our sisters BS pro birth crap [/quote]

What the hell are you talking about?  I’m the most pro-choice person I know.  Saving our Sisters is a pro-choice organization.  The child is already BORN, you imbecile.  Abortion is not an option.

I’m talking back to the idiots who are suggesting that adoption is a solution to a temporary financial condition.  There is ZERO indication from 30 pages of replies from OP that the mother doesn’t want this infant now that he is here.  Thats a vastly different situation from the beginning when the pregnancy was first discovered and the gestational age was unknown.[/quote]

No it is not pro choice it’s pro birth.

Saving our sisters isn’t there five years from now when this mother has nothing

Saving our sisters is not there ten years from now either.

Spare us your crap it’s pro birth [/quote]

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