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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dear OP - thank you for your post - I completely understand what you are saying. The strange part is that I am the LD wife. The point is that I agree that the situation is not fair to you just as I feel that it is not fair to my HD husband. Sex is a given right in a marriage and I believe that you and my husband have gotten the short end of the stick. I was actually very HD before I had my baby - she is 3 now but somehow I haven't been able to recover. However I am not going to justify this like other LD posters - you can make an effort and that is what I'm doing for my husband! I'm making a special point to initiate and to please him although I may not be in te mood. And let me tell you, his attitude is much better and he is more pleasant when he gets some! And to the other posters who keep tellig you to do "more things around the house" so she will want sex - this is BS. My hubby is great but not very great at helpin out with certain things but in my opinion there is NO correlation. Sex is sex and those with HD need it and hose wih LD don't need it as much. No amount of helping around he house will make me want to jump my husband more. Only my conscious choice to make an effort will help - that's the first step to recovery![/quote]

OP here.  Thak you for sharing.  I have a question if you don't mind answering.  You mentioned that you  initiated sex despite not being "in the mood".  Does that mean that you did not enjoy yourself during that session?  Or that you initiated sex despite not being in the mood but once you got going you enjoyed yourself?   I'd be sad if DW had "unenjoyable" duty sex with me if you know what I mean.[/quote]

Hey OP - I don't mind answering at all - once I am in the midst of things I am totally enjoying myself - the act is always very satisfying and leads me wondering why we don't do it more often ;). The issue is the actual getting into the act - I think about all the things I could be doing making food / dealing with my child / cleaning up / even just sleeping rather than having sex and it automatically stresses me out and makes me tired. As I said in my previous post, this has nothing to do with my hubby helping or not helping out around the house. It has everything to do with the fact that I take on a lot of stress and worry about everything (this has only happened recently in the past 3 years) so I don't "feel free" to just want sex (not an excuse I know). Is your wife like that? Does she stress a lot or have a lot going through her mind which may be stopping her from wanting to have more sex? I'm not saying it stress release will make her HD but might make the LD better? I'm actually looking into doing some stress relieving things like yoga etc that may help release stress and in turn help in the sex department.[/quote]

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