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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone up-thread said they thought Garrett wasn’t into Taylor anymore. Why? 
I thought his body language was still good on reunion show.
Is it just bc they no longer have plans to move to San Diego??[/quote]

That was me.

It’s a very slight change in his voice and also in his eyes; the sparkle is gone. My guess is that his family (mom in particular) made things very stressful for him, and he fell into a mild depressive state over the potential move to San Diego. That and/or he was on mood-stabilizing meds.

From the beginning, Garret’s mom gave off a vibe that is very familiar to me but hard to put into words.[b] I’m mixed race, half-white like Taylor and often get the same type of closed-off reaction from certain people. It’s not necessarily racism, just other-ism, perhaps. [/b] Par for the course in life-long F’burg families.

The fact that Fong and husband flew cross country to appear on the reunion show, yet Garrent’s parents didn’t bother to make the one hour drive, speaks volumes.  If I remember correctly, Taylor’s dad didn’t even want to appear on the show in the beginning.   [/quote]

Re the bolded, I understand exactly what you mean because my mother was that way. She looked down upon and was suspicious of anyone not from the US and/or not fully white. I'm so sorry for people like my mom. All I can say to console you is that I am not like that and that sort of racism in our family is ending with her generation. [/quote]

Thanks for acknowledging this and working to change it.  Curious: what do you think people like your mother are suspicious of exactly?   [/quote]

Well, anyone who's different or in some way is better than she is. Different is scary. She also looked down on the white woman who lived two doors away from us who would "prance up and down her driveway in a bikini pretending to get the newspaper all morning." But my mom was fat and the neighbor looked great in a bikini so it seemed like jealousy to teenage-me. When I looked through my mom's old photo albums from when she was in school, I thought it was kind of weird that she lived in NYC but all her friends were white. She also had an education that stopped after college and so didn't know about some things that were proven after that point in her life - like black people don't have a higher pain tolerance than white people, for example. Or that I couldn't get AIDS from being around a gay person if I had a paper cut. She didn't seek out people different from herself - as an adult all her friends were again, white. When I was growing up the only non-white people who came into our house were kids my brother and I made friends with. [/quote]

DP-this is just proof that these white Americans who treat “others” badly are just ignorant and jealous. [/quote]

Only white Americans who treat others badly?

Look in the mirror. You hold your own biases against people who are different. [/quote]

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