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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This bums me out so much.  I really want kids more than anything, but I have a combination fertility issues and martial issues (exacerbated by the fertility issues) at age 36, and I just don't think it's happening for me.

While I am grieving that kids just might not be in the cards for me, my parents have been nothing but supportive and reminded me that I have inherent worth regardless of whether I procreate or not.  That while they would love to be grandparents, it's not an obligation or duty, and that I am enough and that I will be ok even if it never happens for me and that I have so many other things going for me in my life.  That they are there for me and there to support me.  My mom even is flying out to be with me when I freeze my eggs.

If they took the attitude of this thread, it would make this time of my life SO much harder.[/quote]

It sounds like you have a loving supportive family and would therefore create a loving supportive family (if you could).  I think this thread is more from narcissistic parents looking after their own personal interests.  They usually create narcissistic children who do the same and have disdain for their parents, because they were terrible.

fwiw - I have a narcissistic mom so I empathize with many posts here.  I've done a ton of work on myself and realized I didn't know how to parent or love a child properly because it wasn't modeled to me.  My parents weren't abusive btw, maybe unemotional or a touch neglectful - they arent horrible people.  Before I had kids I took loads of parenting classes (still do - and I have a library of parenting books).  I was terrified to raise children and very much wanted them.  I am very inspired to change the generational dynamic.  So far so good.  If my kids don't have children they are every bit as valuable to me if they do.  I would love and support them either way until the day I die.  Sounds like your parents created what I'm trying to create.[/quote]

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