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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] “My parents’ divorce was honorable. My noble dad, whose life was agony because he wasn’t having as much sex as he wanted, nobly left my mother and his children so he could finally achieve his sexual dreams. We are so proud of him and hope he is having all the sex he wanted when our family was intact. It is totally developmentally appropriate that I - his 11 year-old daughter - care deeply that he isn’t having his sexual needs met and definitely want to spend the remainder of my teenage years traveling between two homes so he can get laid. Ask me how my next five boyfriends will treat me!”[/quote]

I know you think that with this snarky reply you’re proving your ultimate point (that cheating on your wife is “better for the kids”), but all I can think about is my job.

I work in law enforcement. As we are instructed in many trainings, the mind’s capacity to rationalize our own bad behavior is incredible. We all want to be the hero in our own stories, and there’s just too much cognitive dissonance when we do “bad things.”

So we contort our logic to “justify” what we know, deep down, are bad acts:

“Everyone else is doing it.”
“My family needed that money I embezzled.”

And in your case:
[b]“I was actually trying to keep my family together by cheating on my wife!”[/b][/quote]

The only thing you are missing is that the choice isn't cheating on my wife to save my family vs. not cheating. No one stays sexless forever.

The question is whether its better for your family to discretely meet your needs outside the marriage vs divorcing and all that entails. You feel like its always better for the kids to be subject to divorce rather than having mom or dad find another route. Maybe you are right, I have no idea.

I also know that you don't know what you would do in that situation.[/quote]

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