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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanksgiving and family holidays is not the time to do this.[/quote]

Whenever the victim feels ready to do this, it's time.  Abusers don't get a say, and protecting "happy family time" when one member of the family is suffering deeply is monstrous. It is deeply evil to value the lie of a happy family over protecting and comforting a victim of sexual abuse. [/quote]

You don't get to ruin thanksgiving dinner  because you were abused.

If you can't handle that stay home.[/quote]

And this is why the cycle continues. Everybody sweep it under the rug so we can play happy family for Thanksgiving. [/quote]

Nobody has to play. But unpleasant life-changing announcement are not typically made at family gatherings. It's not like abuse happened minutes before, so no, the deep suffering, while valid, is not an acceptable excuse to make everybody else suffer deeply.[/quote]

So ... when is a valid time to make unpleasant life-changing announcements? How would you recommend an abuse victim tell the truth to other relatives?[/quote]

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