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Reply to "If you suspect that your spouse is on the cusp"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You can't do anything. You can't fix your wife. This has nothing to do with your marriage. People have affairs because they validate themselves by what others think of them... extrinsic validation. Just say to her, "your relationship with Mr. X bothers me". If she says, you can't tell me who I am friends with... it's over, therapy. If she says, you are silly.... gaslighting... it's over, therapy. If she says, Oh gosh I am so sorry, what would make you feel more comfortable... you are okay. [/quote] I'm the PP in the previous post. I agree with this except therapy. Give the ultimatum it's not appropriate or she's gotta go. Her going out with her friend Every once in a while is fine. Getting texts and calling is too. But if it's constant there's an issue. Therapy won't fix that. [/quote] to clarify... she needs therapy, she needs to know why she uses external forces to validate herself. [/quote]
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