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No, a high libido person does "let it go".  There's a reason why celibacy is actually used by many religious orders- it often IMPROVES quality of life, thinking skills, etc.  All humans have the capacity to access this, or just to [b]get themselves off[/b].  Your desire to have sex does not take priority over someone else's libido.  No one "deserves" to be banging [b]every other night.[/b]  And if you cling to the idea that you are- man, you are in for some real disappointment.

It's called [b]growing up and being mature[/b].  Try it sometime.

Signed,

Another higher libido spouse [/quote]

Three things in this response that are common enough in these threads to have become annoying:

1. Straw man assertion about the frequency of sex. In this case, out of nowhere so far as I can tell, the demand for sex is "every other night." This is often phrased as "every night" or "on demand." Some very high frequency is usually cited in order to be more easily dismissive about the higher libido spouse's desire to have sex in the marriage with some reasonable frequency (usually not every night, every other night, or on demand.) It ignores that very often the complaints in these threads are concerning a marriage where sex is potentially happening once every two weeks, once a month, or even less.

2. The notion that wanting to have sex in a relationship is somehow immature -- that somehow the desire for sex is silly and juvenile.

3. The notion that sex is just about having an orgasm and not recognizing that sex with your spouse is different in some important ways from masturbation. A sexual relationship with your spouse is emotionally different than your nonsexual relationships.

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