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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A 29 yo married man with kids is letting his parents make career decisions for him. Wow. [/quote]

Yeah, awful. Men font mature until later though - when he wishes up you'll find that he stops taking your calls.[/quote]

I have a 26 year old married son.  He and my DIL have a baby.

1.  He would never allow me to push into the relationship between he and his wife. 
2.  He would never allow us to push him into a career that wasn't interested in.
3.  Most importantly, we have never and would never try to do either.

We are always available to listen and talk through decisions with our adult chikdren if they ask for our help.  We will even offer our opinions, again if they ask for our help.  We would never tell our adult kids what we think they should do.  We do not offer unsolicited advice.  We do not get involved in any issue between spouses.

The "men don't mature till later argument" is ridiculous. The only men who aren't mature by their late 20s are boys whose mommies have never let go. If he isn't mature enough to make his own decisions and protect his family from meddling in-laws, then he isn't mature enough to be married.

OP -  The only way to salvage this relationship is to back off.  Your DIL has every right to feel resentful.  If you continue to insert yourself into their lives, they will eventually cut you out completely.  I don't think an apology will make any difference.  I think your actions will determine whether or not this is fixable.[/quote]

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