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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG, OP, are you sock puppeting here? There can't really be this many adults who think that their parents should be at their beck and call 24/7, can there? Are you all millennials?

OP and PPs, I'm the one who said I dealt with a serious neurological condition without demanding a relative move in and do everything I commanded. I don't think that makes me a martyr or even unusual - my neighbor managed 3 kids and a job while her husband was deployed to Afganistan. My other friend recovered from ACL surgery while working FT and raising kids (w/one overnight on the surgery day.) I have friends with cancer and Parkinsons; others who are caring for disabled kids and parents.

We all just get up and do what we have to do. Of course, family pitches in if they can - but that doesn't mean they move in for weeks and manage every single child/household related task exactly as we demand. Being responsible for yourself and your own family, even when you've got an injury or other issue, is not martyrdom; it's adulthood.[/quote]

Jesus your reading comprehension is SUCK.

Good for you handling your business. A lot of people have dealt with shitty situations on their own. YOU'RE COMPLETELY MISSING THE POINT. Op never said she expected her MIL to be her slave, and is pissed that she won't agree to be her slave. Op is annoyed because MIL AGREED TO HELP WITH CHORES/DINNERS/KIDS around the house. Now she is LIVING in their home for the next 2 weeks and is a drain on their finances as well as distracting for OP during her work hours. MIL LIED about what she is willing to do to help OP. THAT is the problem. If op came on here saying "I asked my MIL to move in for two weeks to run my household and clean everything and she said no, what a bitch!" we who are showing OP support would be singing a different tune. MIL is an adult and has every right to decline staying with someone for 2 weeks to help with house duties, chores, cooking, etc. What she shouldn't do, and is frankly a totally disgusting move, is PROMISE to help out, and then BARELY help out, waste OP's time, distract her and spend their money on takeout food. NOT helpful and I would remove that person from my home immediately if I found myself in that situation.[/quote]

PP isn't missing the point at all, she doesn't seem to think there is a point.

If MIL wasn't willing to help she shouldn't have come.  Although maybe it wasn't all made clear ahead of time, I don't know.

Oh and for the adult/martyr poster above -- here's a pat on the back.  I have a disability and manage as much as I can on my own.  When I DO ask for help, it annoys me off when someone agrees and then half asses it.  No, I'm not a millennial.

OP didn't ask for her MIL to be at her beck and call 24/7.  If you read, it seems OP would actually like MIL to not be quite so in-your-face sometimes. [/quote]

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