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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My advice isn't to OP. It's to her husband. His statement is a turn-off, for a lot of reasons, but mostly because he sounds needy. Women don't like needy, especially with small kids around. [b]He needs to read the thread about doing a 180, about stop caring about the marriage. It worked for me, my marriage. I checked out, my wife checked back in. [/b] I don't know why it works, but it does. Perhaps it signals you aren't needy or you have options.[/quote] Positive reinforcement works. Punishment doesn't. When you stop making demands on people, they can give you what they want to give. When that is met with appreciation and happiness and positive reinforcement, they feel like giving more because it made you happy and that made them happy. It's really hard to engage with a spouse when you feel like you are being constantly criticized and nothing you do will ever be good enough. [/quote]
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