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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP are you guys very religious?[/quote]

OP here. I would say yes, religious, moderately so at least. That was the reason I married as a virgin, which despite all the virgin shamers out there, I do not regret at all.

I see that maybe he meant better than he said. I was taken aback by the wording. I do sometimes wish I liked sex more but really don't know how to change that. Counseling? Sex therapy? Books? Then sometimes I just don't really care. We did have enough sex to have two kids who I adore. But if we never had sex again, I would be fine with that. [/quote]

Well, here's where I lose sympathy.  Most of the religious that demand virginity do it as part of the concept that you are giving yourself to your spouse.  So, in a religious framework, that's likely where his statement came from.  If you're going to buy into the virginity/purity until marriage thing, then I don't get why you're taken aback at the "you give your body to your spouse" thing.   Seems to me that all goes together.

While some are disgusted by your husband's comments, I get equally repulsed by the religious concept that a woman should remain a virgin until she gets married.  But that's your choice.

While you may not regret it at all, I'm sure your husband does because likely this low libido thing would have come up before getting married if you hadn't waited.  And then he could have gone into the marriage eyes wide open (meaning, if he had known you had low interest in sex before getting married, he'd be making the choice to proceed anyhow and accept that kind of marriage).

I'm sure I'll get flamed for this.  And maybe I have no sympathy for your husband either if he put a lot of stock in "marrying a virgin."

I'm not a "virgin shamer."  I'm fine with someone making that choice.  But you reap the consequences of that.  If you want to make a big deal about not having sex before marriage, then don't expect sympathy when you find out you're sexually mismatched after you get married.

And yes, I'm sure it works out for some people.  They are virgins when they get married, and it all works out because, luckily, they are sexually compatible.  But it's a gamble you take.

I also understand that having sex and knowing sexual compatibility before marriage doesn't ensure that it will stay that way.  But it helps if at least at the start of the marriage, you know you are both sort of equally matched in libido, et cetera.  [/quote]

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