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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's considerably more subtle than that. You need to learn to value non-academic skills.

My husband has a stratospheric IQ but is not interested in anything except a few topics and never reads anything outside those. He leaves the parenting to me. Culture and deportment mean nothing to him.

I'm the social one, with a measly 130 IQ, am very well-read and well-traveled, a good listener, plus I happen to think I'm a wonderful parent... yet my husband can casually troubleshoot whatever problem I happen to have, even in subjects he's usually not interested in. It's maddening! I brainstorm and talk to experts and do all this stuff, and he comes home and strolls over and immediately has the solution. Puncture.

Now if only he could troubleshoot his own foibles as a husband and father...

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I could have written this.  But I'll also add that I am more "successful" in my career than my spouse, despite his extremely high IQ (mine is also a measly 130 :-).  Compared to my spouse, I have much better people skills, negotiating skills, listening skills, and frankly more common sense when it comes to navigating workplace politics.  The inability to do those things well will always hold my husband back in his career, even though he may be the smartest person in his workplace!  [/quote]
I am similar to the above. Have a grad degree in liberal arts and a J.D. Spouse has a STEM degree and is mechanical. I think he is probably more intelligent than I am, but we have completely different interests. We do not read the same types of books, listen to the same kind of music, and are not interested in the same type of movies. ItHe watches sports, and I don't. It was a concern I had before we got married and continues to be an issue. Not sure he cares much, though, or that he ever did. We are so busy now with kids that we don't have time to do anything much, anyway. However, I think compatibility is a big issue. I may be the odd one, though, honestly, bc I don't really have friends with similar interests, either.  :( [/quote]

What are your interests? Name your favorite book, music, movie, other interest(s).[/quote]
Think of modernism/British lit, philosophy, foreign films. Kind of sounds elitist typing it, but I can't help my interests...[/quote]

No. It just sounds really boring. Maybe you are really boring and it's not that people can't talk to your level, they just don't want to carry on a conversation on with you because it's painfully droll. [/quote]

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