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It sounds like you want a quick solution and/or something that will make her feel better about staying married to you. Wanting your marriage and family to stay intact and desperate to keep it so is understandable.

Here is what I suggest. Tell her once more that you are truly sorry, perhaps in writing share some 'things' or events to illustrate why you love her but keep it simple, but in a way to let her know that she and your child are very important to you. Then ask her to defer any decisions for a time, commit to getting a new counselor, that grand gesture thing sucked, then shut up about it. What you are doing seems to me is pressuring her to 'change' her mind or to forgive you on your time and terms. Time is your ally if you let it be. Oh, and assure her that you will listen if she wants to talk, share or even vent. Then, shut up and listen and don't debate. If she asks questions answer them as tactfully as possible but don't dig your own grave by bald faced lying in hopes the truth won't come out.

BTW, lest you think this is a woman's perspective, nope, I am a man and well past eligible for AARP membership.[/quote]

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