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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - now, when I've committed to breaking up with him, I still have a terrible gut feeling saying, "don't do it! you love him!" A huge sense of relief washes over me when I decide to not end it after all.

How can my gut be telling me such different things - and which one do I listen to? [/quote]

You can love someone and not be able to live with them/work out long-term.  Marriage is more than just being in love.  The way you reconcile heart and gut is that you realize you will hurt the person more in the long run if you stick around knowing it's not right.  You delay both of you having the chance to find the person that is more compatible that you can both love and live with long term.[/quote]

True, pp.

But what if the OP is the problem? What if she's one of those people who can never be satisfied long term? We all know people like this.

I think we can sort people into two boxes when it comes to relationships: those who crave stability, and those who crave excitement. Those who crave stability are cut out for commitment and long term relationships. Those who crave excitement cut and run (or simply cheat) when things settle into a comfortable routine.

Try to imagine how you will feel if you are single a year from now: relieved or sad because you aren't with him? How will you feel when you hear he's getting married or having a baby if you are single: relieved and happy for him, or sad? [/quote]

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