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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To 8:14 PP-- it's not about hating reliable men.

Look at what OP wrote. Specifically, he doesn't like people. A relationship with someone like this could be isolating. Family gatherings, get togethers with friends, finding community, all will either be on her or worse yet, inaccessible to their nuclear family.

I can picture the threads from a wife of this guy:

--DH won't go to family wedding 
--DH was anti social on our vacation
-DH doesn't want my best friend to come help me after the baby is born 
--I miss going out with friends

She said he won't alter his schedule. Five years out:

-- DH won't do daycare drop off 
--DH won't do night feedings and gets mad when I ask for help at night 
--DH wont give up Saturday basketball. Leaves kids with me.

The fact that he's "reliable" when he has no family responsibilities is meaningless if he's inflexible.

OP has the good sense to realize that building a life with this guy is not the same as dating him.

Trust your gut, OP. This guy is not going to be a good fit. [/quote]

OP here: thank you for articulating this. Some of the things you mentioned, like not going to a family wedding, are things I've already encountered.

I feel literally sick to my stomach thinking I should probably break up with him tomorrow night. He will likely cut off all contact with me. I would be losing my best friend.[/quote]

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