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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My goodness.

I am not sure where some posters got that my husband asked me to abandon a friend. First of all she is a casual friend and secondly he asked me to distance myself from her and the situation not go no contact and shun her. He didn't demand that I never speak to her again. He simply told me that he was distancing himself from his coworker because he finds him disgusting and mentioned I should do the same with the situation.

She is away this week moving her oldest into college. When she returns I intend to tell her what I know, which my husband fully supports and offered to be there but I feel it is best just coming from me. While I would never turn away a friend I am also not this woman's best friend or even in her close circle so yes, I intend to distance myself from what will likely be both a volatile and hopefully private situation.

I know the relationship forum just loves to say that every husband is cheating. Thank you for your concern. My love is my best friend and a good man and I don't have a single worry or doubt. [/quote]

Remember the 'Don't Shoot the Messenger' adage. She might turn her anger back to you. If she knows that you know this horrible fact about HER/her life, she might distance herself from and/or shun you. Be ready for that.

I would just have a general conversation about what she thinks of the current state of her marriage and I might interject a story of some marriages that break up when the kids leave for college.

You also don't know what could happen in three years time - she could leave him, he could drop dead of a heart attack (fingers crossed), his gf could dump him (very likely), he could have a life changing epihany.. I would not fill her in with everything I heard.[/quote]

I agree and thank you. I am beginning to wish I just distanced myself from this entire situation like my husband suggested. There is no silver lining here.

I am potentially tearing her life apart. [/quote]

Are you totally sure she doesn't hate him? He doesn't sound easy to love.[/quote]

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