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[quote=Anonymous]I think you've gotten a lot of feedback about how to discipline at the swimming pool and certainly your request to leave that scenario should be honored.

I think that given the fact that your son has both processing and ADHD issues you give far too much verbiage, scripting, and framing to discipline and what I will call "behavior management" -- name calling, impulse control.

When a child with processing issues and ADHD (who has a limited attention span) gets an introduction to discipline or an introduction to your reaction to his behavior like "I know that you are upset but you have to choose a better way to express that."  And then presumably you script or model the better way.  And then only thirdly, do you approach the fact that he's done something that is not acceptable and what that unacceptable thing is and what the consequence might be, if you know.

Your child has left the room mentally after Point 1, and has not processed either your script or the fact that he's done something wrong, and it sounds like you don't even know the consequence.  You've got to stop giving speeches to him.  You are not helping him.  Your message to him has to be as simple as "Stop.  You are breaking the rules."  (You have a list of very simple rules posted in your house, right?  Like no name calling?  Or "In this family, we call each other Mom, Dad, Larla, Larlette.")

Stop explaining all the time.  It doesn't help him.  It makes you feel like a good understanding mom, but it really doesn't help him at all.  A kid with processing issues and ADHD needs immediate feedback.

Special Needs Mom.

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