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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's very into the idea that this baby will look like her. I look like her, and this baby is a girl, and she's excited about having another clone. This would be her only genetic grandchild (the rest are step -- I am her biological daughter) and she's excited about that.

I don't actually mind if what I say in fact answers the question -- I don't want to talk about it or deal with her feelings on the matter right now. I will honestly be a little angry if she cares so much what this baby looks like rather than just being super happy for me that I'm finally getting a baby. But I know it's reasonable for her to have her own feelings about it. I'm just not ready to deal with that yet.[/quote]

But, if that is the case, you are just plain deceiving her and raising her hopes for nothing.  This will not be her only genetic grandchild.  You are not protecting her, you are plain laying. Better to tell her now, so she can stop obsessing over genetics and get used to the idea. If she can't, her loss.[/quote]

OK but straight [b]genetic children are not guaranteed to be clones of the parents either[/b]. My DE DS however, does look exactly like his father. But that has nothing to do with grandmother.[/quote]

My daughter looks exactly like me--strangers at the playground can pick her out from a group as my kid.  It would be pretty sad if my MIL had her hopes pinned on having a grandchild who looked like her or her son.  No one knows how the genes are going to combine.

I really don't know what I would do in the OP's shoes, mostly because I cannot imagine my mother being anything but delighted to have a grandchild, regardless of how that baby arrived.  But really, if I thought someone wasn't going to be supportive, I probably wouldn't tell them. [/quote]

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