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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a middle aged woman whose best friend is a man who is 10 years younger than me.  He is like the brother I never had.  We click intellectually, politically, and creatively.  But we are not intimate in any way.

I actually help him to try to find women that he likes.  He desperately wants to get married and have kids.  I have kids and don't want any more, ever.  I really encourage him to get out there and meet nice women. He also helps me by giving me advice on men that I am dating.

Even I think it is a little odd, but I do think that we will be friends for the rest of my life.  I can understand why people wouldn't understand it.  We text and talk to each other daily.

I do realize, however, that if he meets a woman that he wants to marry that she may not approve of our friendship.  At that point, I would step back and far away as needed.

I say all this just to point out that while it is odd, it doesn't have to be anything sexual in nature.  If I were you, I'd ask if would be possible for the three of you to go out for dinner.  Or ask him if it would be okay with him if you and his friend go out for dinner without him.  If he is cheating or things are inappropriate, he probably wouldn't agree to either.

If you get to meet her, ask how they became close.  Ask her if she has any romantic feelings toward him or whether they have had any sexual contact at any time.  If she can answer all your questions, maybe you can relax a little.  Trust your gut when you meet her.

Good luck.  I hope it is all on the up and up.[/quote]

I would never ask her how they became close or any of the other questions. That's just making of a dram[/quote]

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