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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious what do your parents and in laws think of this?[/quote]

Three are living and all three are completely supportive.  DH's parents can't travel due to health issues but my mother can and she will be visiting once or possibly twice during the 3 months.  And no, we aren't struggling financially at all, but we would be without my job.  And, this is probably irrelevant to those of you who've written me off as a selfish and bad mother, but this something I've been working towards for a long time and something I care a lot about.

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It doesn't matter what your parents think OP. PP's who are being mean - stop.

OP, go. There is nothing wrong with you being away from home for 3 months. Or longer. Your kids will be fine. They will have a great time with dad, and they will have some great adventures with him, and you will get to do something that sounds important for your career. It is not selfish to work toward advancement in your career. It is important. I would argue that its important for your kids to see as well - so that they know that you are a human being with ambitions outside of motherhood. They can see dad step up to help you with your career, the same way you probably step up when he needs it. And he sounds competent and loving, even if he doesn't do things the same way you would.

Part of this is a rant on society - mothers are seen as such one-dimensional people that it makes me insane. We're not allowed any ambition that might disrupt the balance at home, or that could cause some temporary unhappiness for our children. If we do choose to pursue our career we're selfish (unless it occurs during the school day, and we can still make it to all the events), know we shouldn't do it, and should stop so that no one is offended. I hate it. OP is leaving her children with their PARENT, not a drug dealer, therefore she is not doing anything neglectful or inappropriate. Saying she will miss them does not mean she should stay home and throw away the opportunity - it means she should take pictures with her and have her husband text her photos of all the fun they have so she can see that they are OK.
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