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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
This kind of blew up since last night!

I'll try to answer everyone.

He didn't start our 2nd date by saying  he needed to tell me something, and I didn't push him for information.
I asked a very casual question and that led to talking about families and such and he mentioned  growing up in foster care.
Beyond knowing he went in at 6 and was never adopted I don't know any details.
I also don't think the details are my business at this point.

On the surface, from what you can know of someone you met online and after 2  dates, he's a very sweet guy and seems to have his life together. To me he seems more mature than 26 , not that maturity is a bad thing in a guy.
I guess is my worry I have a habit of picking guys with baggage that ends in nothing but relationship drama.
So, when he told me that my mind went immediately to "oh no  not again!"
I want to give it a chance, but I don't want to get caught up with someone who is not healthy again.[/quote]

To be honest OP, you just sound like you've got a lot more to learn about how to read the people you date, what signs indicate someone with the "drama" you should avoid and which signs indicate someone who might be a good match for you.  And that's all normal and part of just growing up and getting to know yourself and how to date.  But the fact that you don't get yet that yes, circumstances matter, but they do NOT define someone's character... if I were getting to know you and knew you thought this way, I'd know that **I** should step away and look for someone else to date.  That is a big thing to not understand and maybe it is just because you're young, but I'd want to date someone smart enough to know that it's WHO you are now, and how that manifests itself, not HOW you grew up that defines whether you're a good partner or not.[/quote]

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