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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've only been on 2 dates so far.
Trying to figure out a third.
He's a very sweet guy but I'm wondering if perhaps there is too much emotional baggage.
For reference we're both 26.[/quote]

I'm going to cut you a little bit of slack because you're 26 yrs old, but you should know your question is wildly ignorant.

Of course growing up in foster care indicates some very likely rough experiences.  However as someone who worked in foster care for 15 years and also was an adult woman out there living my life and dating, I can absolutely tell you that emotional baggage - SERIOUS emotional baggage - is out there in such big ways for so many men and women who did NOT grow up in foster care, you simply have to take each individual one person at a time and see if they meet your criteria for a stable person to date, plus whatever criteria you value in someone you date.

There are a LOT of different types of experience someone can have in foster care.  Again, not sugar-coating it, a lot of kids have a very rough time.  But many find stable nurturing homes, and many others thrive and come out fine despite their rough experiences.

And... a lot of people who never ever got anywhere near CPS or foster care are emotionally-damaged people who would make very unstable boyfriends or girlfriends.  You simply can't generalize either way.

I hope you give this guy an equal chance, just like anyone else you'd date.  If you see signs of trouble or behavior that bothers you, move on.  But the fact that he grew up in foster care should not all by itself make you cut him off.  Although... if he is a good guy and you do cut him off just because he grew up in foster care, maybe you're doing him a favor, because maybe he should be moving on from you....[/quote]

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