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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This thread is somewhat amusing. I particularly love the low income moms replies and agree with a lot of what she says (although we are not low income now, both DH and I grew up that way). [b]I'm also curious as to how previous posters know what other people's SES is[/b], or are people just assuming these families are low income? People assume all of the time that our family is low income, and quite frankly I believe it's because [b]we are young minorities, and, outside of work, have a more "urban" way of dressing.[/b] In all other respects we're pretty DCUM average. What's funny is the moment I open my mouth, white/ high income individuals seem to be taken aback by the fact that I'm actually articulate. They're even more surprised when/if they ever make it to my house. Maybe people are not coming to your parties because of the deeper assumptions you are making about who they are; their level of income, language and other abilities. [/quote]

I think you answered your own question.  We are also a minority family (I'll say black or Latino), and I commented earlier in the thread that I'm sure people make assumptions about us too.  My husband is typically dressed down at dropoff and pickup (hoodies, sweats, etc.) but is actually a physician with a pretty rarefied upbringing (elite boarding schools & universities).  You wouldn't know at first glance, though.[/quote]

My kids go to a pretentious and expensive pre-school. My son's best friend, who is black, was applying to a top private school and his mom, also a friend of mine, ran into another mom from our pre-school at an admission event who pulled her aside to let her know that the private school didn't offer financial aid. I was floored. How does that mom think my friend pays for two kids to go to a pretentious pre-school? The daycare scholarship package? But my surprise may be predicated on the fact that I'm white, since my friend found the whole thing only slightly surprising.[/quote]

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