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[quote=Anonymous]OP I am with you in wanting to hear how these stories turned out for people. We are just on the beginning of our path, with a newborn at 45 (DH 48). Seven years younger than our other DC. After infertility and multiple rounds of IVF to get to first pregnancy we were, acknowledgedly, not taking precautions. We sort of had a "if it happens, it happens" mentality. But I really didn't expect it to happen so many years later.

I had wished and wished for this baby but I feel incredibly conflicted and sad at some level--not about having her, but about how old we are. I feel a lot of fear that we will not be there for her, and regret that I didn't start trying to have children much much earlier in life and make it more of a priority. (I had two serious relationships, including one engagement, go down in flames in my 20s and didn't get married until 35, so I didn't really have the luxury of starting that much earlier, but part of me thinks if I had known how much I would want kids I would have made different choices.)  I think part of it is that we have had some friends and family members have very serious health issues just in the last year or two that have made me feel my own mortality much more strongly than I did even at 40.

So having another baby so far is wonderful but I am daunted at what it will be like to raise another child. At 60 I will still have a high schooler. I just pray to God we stay healthy. And am doing everything we can to prepare for not being here, should that happen. [/quote]

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