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[quote=Anonymous]OP in my experience, you are correct.

When two young, relatively unencumbered people get married, they have NO IDEA how the typical challenges of life will impact their relationship, including sex.

Kids.  Illness.  Job loss.  Weight gain.  Attraction to others outside of the marriage.  And on and on.

Remember how marriage has evolved.  As an economic bargain between two people or their families.  The man had power over the wife and kids, basically "owned" her, and there was no such thing as marital rape.  In return for his ownership, he was supposed to be a benign dictator.  But a dictator indeed.  Wives are to submit. Even recently in the news I've seen articles about how wives should always sexually submit to their husbands, and joyfully.  Also I recall recently seeing something about "lightly" beating ones wife being OK....

Even today's young men, while they may not agree with those old fashioned ideas of marriage, are products of a society that still sends many of the same messages that have been around for millennia.  They do get angry when denied.  They feel hurt and that it's not fair.  They do feel rejected and unloved.

Given what I know now about marriage, I would not marry again.  I hope you will ask yourself, OP, if marriage still really does make sense.  To me it's often a losing bargain for the woman.  What do we really need a husband for?  What do we get out of it?

I'm all for love and romance, but I want a man who chooses me every day, not one who is stuck with me.

If you do get married, I hope you will do extensive counseling with your prospective spouse.  Make sure you both have a realistic understanding and agreement of what happens in marriage and what marriage requires.  I didn't, and not just when it comes to sex.
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