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Reply to "Is it okay to divorce a remorseful cheater when you have kids?"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Nobody was bewitched your husband and OP's husband made the choice to step out on you. You and he have to acknowledged that if you want to move forward together. Blaming the OW will only get you so far.[/quote] No, you misunderstand what I mean. Of course it was his choice. But in the aftermath of the choice, his reasoning and explanations about WHY he'd done it made no sense. He was attempting to justify (to himself - it certainly wasn't a justification I accepted) the reasons he had behaved as he did, as if there was a good explanation that would make it OK. It's a period of cognitive dissonance that the person who cheats goes through, when they are remorseful and yet can't seem to fully understand that it was wrong. The surviving infidelity board calls "the fog" and until the cheating spouse comes out of it, they can't take responsibility and you can't make a decision about how to move forward.[/quote]
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