Reply to Would you let your parent move in with you?

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Would you let your parent move in with you? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes. I didn't ask to be born, but they didn't ask to get old. When they get old, they are my responsibility, just like I was theirs.[/quote] This.  People used to take care of their elderly famliy members. This is how I grew up in the Midwest.  I think, as a society, we have lost something vital when we see our elderly as disposable and a hinderance to our lifestyle.[/quote]

Have you tried to take care of a dementia or very ill person?  Its far easier said than done.[/quote]

+1.  People used to not live so long.  Unless you know what it is to provide long-term care to someone with dementia, do not judge.  Pick the dried crap out of your MIL's butt pubes and see how you feel about nursing homes then.[/quote]

So you would rather a minimum wage worker do that instead? [/quote]

Yes, as the have the skill and time.  With dementia, its worse than a 2 year old.  My MIL could not function at all.  She could not eat without being told and assistance (i.e. sit there), could not use a phone or even verbalize she was hungry or needed something.  She could not get dressed, do her hair or bathe.  I could not leave the house for days on end, which meant my young child missed school and his stuff because she would not come along for the drive or leave the house.  Maybe you are a better person than me, but after 6 months and exhausted, we had to place her in a nursing home.  [quote]I still spend many hours a week managing her finances, doing her paperwork, visiting, shopping and tending to her needs.[/quote].
[/quote]

Why doesn't your husband do it?[/quote]

He has had a very difficult relationship with her.  She's always been kind to me prior to the dementia.  I was the one who pressed the issue to move her here and do it all as if I did not she was going to be dumbed at the first nursing home cross country and who knows what would happen.  I want to set a good example for our kids that you care for those who need it.   He will only do what I ask him to do for her.  I do not mind but it is far more work than most realize between fighting with the nursing home, paperwork, shopping and more.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics