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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let's have an honest discussion. I think spanking is wrong. I think it can damage kids and cause distrust. More broadly, i believe (and i think some studies have shown) that demonstrating the resolution of problems, or enforcement of boundaries / one's wishes greatly contributes to a world where our impulses are to shove, punch, bully, murder, execute, and nuke one another into submission. At the same time, I can't even with these people who say EVERY child will respond well to positive reinforcement only and that anyone whose child doesn't respond isn't doing it right. i know spanking is wrong, and yet i don't have a foolproof substitute! 
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[b]Why would it damage kids and cause distrust any more than any other punishment? [/b]I'm up for a civil discussion. My assessment is that it all depends on how it's explained and implemented.[/quote]
+1 
My kid thinks I'm mean when I punish him by taking away his electronic time.  I think he'd rather I just spank him than take away his electronic time. He's 11.   I don't think he remembers being spanked when he was 5, but he does probably remember when I spanked him when he was 8.  [/quote]

What did he do in those cases to get a spanking, and are you in the same camp as the previous poster in terms of how you do it?[/quote]
He was very disrespectful to me when I asked him to do something. He was given warnings about this previously.  I turned him around where he stood and gave him a quick whack on the backside fully clothed.  Now, when he starts to speak disrespectfully to me, I just give him a look, and he knows better because he knows he'll get electronic time taken away.  That's the atomic bomb for him.  When he was 5, he didn't have much electronic time, and he certainly didn't cherish it like he does now.[/quote]

So he's scared you will hit him.  He's frightened of you.[/quote]

I'm not someone who's spanked in the past, but I think that kids ought to be a little bit afraid of the consequences of speaking so disrespectfully to their parents. That's a feature, not a bug, of any good discipline plan.[/quote]

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