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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why was it on her to pick the shoes, clothes, etc? Take the kid shopping for goodness sake![/quote]

Right!  The ex has to tell you what size your husband's child wears?  There are multiple problems here. [/quote]

+1.  Weird how you treat the ex like a secretary or someone who has to submit business expenses to you.  Can't you just ask the kid yourself if he/she wants to play soccer and on what team and contact the right parents/company to sign up and pay?  It's not rocket science to figure this stuff out.  Unless your kid is under 5, they are likely to be able to give you enough info for you to do this on your own.  [/quote]

It's been ordered by a judge to supply receipts in the cases I know of. No receipt no money. Child support pays for clothes.  Dad can take the child shopping.

In lieu of receipts the ex needed to provide all registration information and dad would pay his half directly.

One mom was also told dad would pay X amount per year for activities. Anything over that was on her. The amount was half of what the judge deemed a reasonable amount based on the child's interests.[/quote]

Dad can take a child shopping but its not deducted from his child support.  We bought/sent the kid lots of clothing as mom wasn't buying much (she'd buy to compete with us and trash our stuff so it was a win for the kid) and we got no deductions.  It was considered a "gift."

There are all kinds of child support arrangements depending on time shares, etc.  There are some situations where parents have equal time share and income and then they do a split, which is reasonable.  My husband tried to pay activities directly (above the child support as she refused to let the kid play if it came out of child support) and she refused demanding a check  to her (he offered to send it to the school) and refused to send the registration information (I'm assuming she never intended for him to play and it was another way to blame dad as to why he couldn't play).[/quote]

You're right the clothes aren't deducted. When BIL bought clothes they stayed at his house so they wouldn't be thrown out.

No registration information meant no money. It was in the order? [/quote]

No, his child support covered everything except some medical and dental.  Later a judge removed that clause as she refused to use his insurance which had very few co-pays and basically everything was free.  We offered to do it as we knew she would not pay for it via child support or buy the clothing.  We didn't keep the clothing at our house as she often refused visits and it was cross country so he'd outgrow them and we wanted him to enjoy them (if he was here more we'd have a set to send home and a set for our house).  My husband basically did what you are saying... and he refused to send a check directly to her and was willing to pay the school directly.  She wouldn't allow it.  I think she didn't want to drive the kid to practices so she tried to blame dad for not paying for it, when he would have.[/quote]

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