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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My 13yo DD recently came out. She's been in therapy for anxiety, and suddenly she's a new person not carrying around secrets anymore. DH and I are so happy to have our happy, less angsty DD back. It wasn't a surprise to DH and I when she came out. We're supportive and really just want her to fee happy and secure.

She will be spending several weeks this summer with her grandparents (3 sets, DH's divorced parents and my parents). She asked me to tell them her news because she didn't want to keep secrets anymore but didn't feel comfortable discussing her sexuality with grands, aunts and uncles. They're all southern, traditional, religious, conservative, and homophobic to varying degrees. All said they love her and want her to be happy, but disapprove of her choice. Every time they say choice, I correct them and say it's just who she is. My parents feel like they're being very supportive even though they've said how sad they are that she's not straight.

So my question is, how much do I correct them? When does it go from protecting dd's feelings to being combative? What amount of standing up for you do you wish your parents had done? She very much loves her grandparents and wants to go on this trip. I don't think there will be any huge issues. I just worry about her internalizing things they might say in passing, not directly about/to her (although I do worry a bit about that too). Things like supporting the bathroom bill or religious freedom by not forcing businesses to serve lgbt customers. I don't want to battle my parents or in-laws, but if there are key phrases to avoid I'd be happy to coach them a bit about what not to say. DD hasn't faced any direct negativity so she's not really able to say what would be offensive to hear. I also don't really want her to know about any negative things they've said to me. I want as little impact on her relationships with extended family as possible.

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13yo DD is gay. Grandparents disapprove. She's spending the summer with them. How do I help make for a happy summer for DD so her anxiety doesn't get worse?[/quote]
Why do you sound like a troll? [/quote]

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