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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]because I asked him why he dumped into the sink a bunch of neatly stacked dishes I had left on the counter.

Context:  we are in limbo and I want to move out but he has been unemployed and I cannot afford two mortgages. This morning he threw dishes from counter into sink.  I asked why he did that and he pointed to a pot I had left in the sink and said it was unacceptable.  I then objected saying How is that unacceptable? He said there's food in the pot.  I said there isn't and proceeded to take a picture of the pot for later discussion, he threw the water from the pot on me.[/quote]

We're the dishes and the pot in question dirty?[/quote]

I bet they were, and had been sitting there for days.  There's more to this story than we're being led to believe.[/quote]

Yes the pot was dirty and I had placed it in the sink the night before, which upset H because he likes them neatly stacked on the side of the sink.  He was mad that I hadn't finished washing all the dishes AND that I had left a dirty pot in the sink.  Additional information:  he's been unemployed (again) for 7 months; I bought a disheasher 3 weeks ago but am not allowed to install it because it's something he wants to do himself. I've been upset at him for dragging his feet on installing the dishwasher and for not helping with housework since he's home during the day --- in fact it's more work for me having him home since he's a slob.  I'm paying all the bills i cluding afterschool daycare since he's supposed to be looking for work.  He's employed about 2 years out of every 4 on average. But he doesn't help save to cover for the years he's unemployed.  The garbage I bring is that I've become a critical and resentful person and I bet he can tell I no longer respect him. So, PP, there's the stuff that I left out.[/quote]

NP here. Of course, your actions weren't helpful; but there's absolutely no excuse for what he did. I agree with others who suggest getting a lawyer so that you can at least live apart while getting counseling or working through your divorce. Best to you, OP. I'm really sorry.[/quote]

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