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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I didn't have an exclusivity discussion until we took our wedding vows. According to many posters it would have been wrong for either of us to expect exclusivity since we didn't explicitly address it until we got the altar....

I'll say that I don't think either of you were explicitly wrong. At some point, relationships do go exclusive without explicitly discussing the topic, the question is when that happens. Personally, I think meeting families is when you start to get into the grey area, but that doesn't help you, OP.

Ignore the advice to spill your heart and cheesy BS about how seeing her out with another dude made your realize you want her to be exclusive. First, life is not a romantic comedy. Second, telling somebody that seeing her with someone else makes you want her to be exclusive is possessive. You want to be exclusive because you want to be with her.  Full stop.

From the 30,000 foot view, you aren't going to be able to get this out of your head, even if she agrees to make this exclusive. Given your postings in this thread, I would just cut my losses and move on and be more direct about exclusivity in the future. [/quote]

This is so full of crap... not until the alter eh? what about when you proposed? You obviously discussed it in some way and now you are just being intentionally dense...

If you are unable to communicate what you want and need, no one is going to just give it to you :roll: [/quote]

At some point in time there was an implied exclusivity while my wife and I were dating. Hell, an engagement is also a pretty strong statement of exclusivity, but We never sat down and discussed it. I guess early in our relationship she saw me ignoring booty call texts/calls I was getting in the middle of the night, but we never actually discussed exclusivity. Not sure why you think this a load of crap. [/quote]

The way this person worded it, at least you can admit that engagement/ proposal would at least count... the poster above stated it wasn't til they said their vows, come on now[/quote]

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