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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it's pretty normal.  I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy.  I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference.  Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it.  Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight.  [b]I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness,[/b] so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs.  I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good.  what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.[/quote]

[b]but supposedly that only went on for 2+ years? how could that having such long lasting effect on your body image issue for 20+ years? what were the comments like?[/b] [/quote]

Not the pp but sometimes things stick with you.  I remember being about 12 and hearing my Dad saying something about how women with flappy arms shouldn't wear sleeveless dresses - and we were watching TV.  For whatever reason it made an impression and as I've gotten older I've stopped wearing sleeveless tops.  Crazy, yes but it's stuck in my head.

Please help your daughter develop healthy eating habits but also be careful what you say.[/quote]

i think it's really not fair to blame your dad for your issue with sleeveless tops. he wasn't even talking about you.

also unfair for PP to blame her terribly low self esteem on some comments her dad made 20+ years ago.[/quote]

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