Anonymous wrote:She doesn't eat much food. I don't see how she could be overeating with what you typed out.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal. I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy. I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference. Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight. I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness, so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs. I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good. what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.

but supposedly that only went on for 2+ years? how could that having such long lasting effect on your body image issue for 20+ years? what were the comments like?

Not the pp but sometimes things stick with you. I remember being about 12 and hearing my Dad saying something about how women with flappy arms shouldn't wear sleeveless dresses - and we were watching TV. For whatever reason it made an impression and as I've gotten older I've stopped wearing sleeveless tops. Crazy, yes but it's stuck in my head.

Please help your daughter develop healthy eating habits but also be careful what you say.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal. I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy. I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference. Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight. I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness, so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs. I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good. what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.

but supposedly that only went on for 2+ years? how could that having such long lasting effect on your body image issue for 20+ years? what were the comments like?

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure she's not eating at school? Charts show that girls that age usually need about 1700 calories a day to maintain weight. If she's dancing a lot (4 nights a week seems like she's competitive), she probably needs at least 2,000. What you are showing is...

Oatmeal + skim milk + fruit = approx. 300 calories
Sandwich + granola bar + yogurt = approximately 400 calories (These estimations are generous)

So .. basically, that's 700 calories. I can't imagine dinner that you say is healthy is over 1,000 calories, plus that isn't including the activity she's getting.

Bottom line, either something is up with what you say you give her, or she's eating elsewhere. Let this be a tale of caution... I was your daughter. At around 9, I got chubby. My Mom noticed and instead of just rolling with it, she monitored everything that went into my mouth. No chips or sweets either (heaven forbid). By the time I was 13, she enrolled me in weight watchers. I lost 20 pounds (also got my period and shot up a few inches) and have had an incredibly awful time with food, weight, and my body image and self worth for the last 20 years. Therapy is just now starting to make a difference in how I view myself (I'm a size 6, so fairly average but always view myself as a COW). PLEASE, I'm begging you - roll with it. Let the doctor's figure it out if it continues to happen with no apparent cause. She will grow out of it. What she will never grow out of is how you make her feel, if you handle it wrong. And bring some chips and sweets into the house occasionally. Moderation is key. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:She is eating almost all carbs. Switch out the cereal and get rid of the granola bar. Also I'm thinking your statement that she always gets the fruit cup instead of fries is a bit of a red flag. Where does she do this? What else is she eating there. Don't deprive her of the occasional fry, but realize that when it is becoming habitual. What does she drink? What does she have for dinner? What are the portion sizes?

She eats meat at dinner. I'd like to give her more protein at breakfast but she doesn't like eggs.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal. I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy. I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference. Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight. I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness, so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs. I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good. what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.

but supposedly that only went on for 2+ years? how could that having such long lasting effect on your body image issue for 20+ years? what were the comments like?

Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal. I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy. I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference. Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight. I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness, so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs. I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good. what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.

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Her doctor is concerned, she's the one who brought it up. And yes I realize it's normal to gain some weight right before puberty, but is it normal to become medically overweight?

Anonymous wrote:My mother in Europe put me on a diet when I was 2 years old, and that was decades ago. No she wasn't crazy, I was eating like there was no tomorrow. And it was all homemade good food. I love food, still do. Could eat all day long! I was what grandma called "healthy" and by the time I was 11 I wasn't heavy but I wasn't skinny either. But, all the healthy food I ate shaped my eating habits and at 15 I started eating even healthier, fish,veggies, on my own. Telling 9 year old to control her own eating is a recipe for failure, she likes it, it feels good and she is a kid. On top of it she needs to eat to grow and be healthy. I don't get the impression that OP necessarily wants our advice on how to proceed, just some compassion from us. She will most likely see nutritionist, endocrinologist etc for advice if she wasn't already doing all of it. OP, good luck. The only thing I could say is to show your daughter unconditional love and care, and not criticism, that is the most important thing IMO. No matter the weight, the other issues, always tell her that she is most beautiful child in the world, she will start saying things like, maybe to you and you should say yes, to me you are everything in the world.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's pretty normal. I was rail thin up until age 10-11 where I became pudgy. I was in the swim team so was swimming 4-5 evenings a week, ate healthy (my parents were health nuts) but it made no difference. Right around 13, I got my period, shot up in height (but not weight) and was rail thin again - 5'6" and 95lbs until college where I gained 10 lbs ?

If her doctor is not concerned, I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just make sure you don't make a big deal about her weight. I had terribly low self esteem because my dad constantly commented on my chubbiness, so much so that I thought I was still fat and ugly at 95lbs. I still have a hard time with weight and feel fat and disgusting even when other people think I'm thin and look good. what you do and say will have a lasting impact and can be very damaging.