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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you are in an asymmetric situation so you need asymmetric action.

Bottom line, like most men, you want sex more than your wife (I said most, not all - my condolences to women married to low drive men).  I know this started when the baby came and started in a dramatic way, but it was probably coming at some point as the relationship wears on (you have only been married 2.5 years).   Women like being pursued, even if they don't want to have sex.  Women like the compliments.  Women respond sexually when they feel desired (See e.g. every romance, twighlight. 50 shades novel).  If you want sex to be equal responsibility in the marriage, then get used to having sex as often as lesbian women have sex in a long term relationship (averages again, my condolences to high drive lesbians).

So keep initiating, keep pursuing, keep making your wife feel sexy.  If you tell her sex is something you can take or leave, she is going to spiral lower in her libido.  You are playing the long game here.

It's not fair, in the sense you want your marital sex life to be a 50/50.  But it's also not fair that most women get stuck with more housework because men are generally happy to live in dirty houses (condolences to clean freak men). Or that women do more child care.  [/quote]

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