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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What if you played a little harder to get? If she asks you why you're not initiating, calmly tell her you don't want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you.[/quote]

I tried this one already...it requires her to either initiate (never happens) or get to the point that it's an emotional outburst.  She's left me not-so-subtle hints on cards (eg, valentines day card), but never touches me, and is pretty much unresponsive to my touch.  It's a little nutty.

I have, however, responded calmly and compassionately to the outbusts explaining exactly that: I don't really want to have sex with someone who doesn't seem to want to have it with me...and that to me requires something beyond leaving a note about getting it back in a card.

Maybe I should walk in the room naked, holding the card and tell her what to do...[/quote]

Well of course she's insecure if that's how you react.  "Calmly and compassionately" my ass.  I get that you don't like duty sex, but if she's taking a baby step towards sex, maybe you could try not to criticize her efforts.  It sounds like you will only have sex if she approaches you in exactly the right way, and you don't even really desire her anyway.  Maybe you're the one who needs to work on your libido.[/quote]

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