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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lol feminism goes right out the window if the feminist thinks it means she won't be getting free jewelry any longer.  A true feminist woman would insist on buying her own engagement ring And one for her man.

We all know that will never happen.[/quote]

So for things to be "equal" (since that's your incredibly un-nuanced understanding of what feminism is), a woman would need to buy both rings? What's equal about that? I think it would be more equal for the partners to agree on what rings they want (if any), agree on a budget for those rings (again, if any), and then buy them. Period.

My feminist husband buys me jewelry fairly regularly. I buy him jewelry that I know he'll actually wear - thus far, that's only a really amazing watch (that matches the ring I bought him pretty well). If I thought he would wear other things, I would buy them for him. I wear earrings, necklace, bracelets and multiple rings every day, so he buys me those things. He has never, not even one time, bought me flowers. Not because he's not a feminist but because I don't care for them and he knows that because he asked me.

Which is what the OP should do with his girlfriend - ASK HER WHAT SHE WANTS and then FIGURE OUT HOW TO MAKE THAT HAPPEN TOGETHER. If the answer is "The ring is too expensive" but it's still important to her, then talk about saving for it together, prioritizing it over other things she enjoys, etc. If your girlfriend is not able to have those kinds of conversations and participate in those kinds of decisions, what the hell makes you think she's ready to marry you or participate in any of the bigger decisions involved in having a family together?[/quote]

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