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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My therapist once told me "there is no such thing as a justifiable affair but there is such thing as a justifiable divorce" [/quote] +1[/quote]

i get this in theory but i think we are both better off married.  he is much happier with me than he'd be divorced - i add a lot to his life, have helped his mental health significantly, added stability, and provide companionship that i think makes his day to day much better.   he similarly makes my life better than being single would be and day to day we have a happy relationships with each other. but the thought of staring down 50 years without any real sex is crushing.

divorce seems like the worst outcome for us both but maybe that's me fooling myself[/quote]

Oh fuck right off with all this rationalization bullshit. YOU are better off staying married so you can scratch the itch but don't have to deal with a divorce and losing him "making your life better" while you screw another man on the side behind his back.

It's fundamentally dishonest and hateful for you to pursue a life-long affair rather than divorce him. Either work with him to improve things or divorce him. You are disgusting for justifying your interest in an affair by saying it's good for you both. It would obviously destroy him to find out, so you either woman up and divorce him or woman up and have a honest conversation about how much sex means to you and how you need to find a better solution together.

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The bigger truth is many should have stayed single. They are not cut out to be real partners. There are real struggles in life, kid problems, health, and if they can't weather some of the little nonsense best to stay single and have all the sex they want since it's such a priority.  No one person can ever meet all your needs be it emotional, sexual, what have you. At some point you have to put the adult pants on and accept it.[/quote]

50 years of no sex is not a "little thing".  and most people don't go into marriage expecting someone to meet ALL their needs - sex is the only one we peal off and say only your partner is allowed to fulfill it and if they can't too bad, sucks to be you.[/quote]

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