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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]What is wrong with you religious types huddling for a pre-meal prayer in the foyer or the den? Why do the non believers have to stay away from the table until the believers have their way first?[/quote]

[b]This sounds like a reasonable compromise.[/b] Why not be respectful of your SIL's beliefs?[/quote]

Except the pre-meal prayer is traditionally a blessing OVER THE FOOD, not the living room tv set or the cute hedgehog boot brush by the front door. [/quote]

Why not in the kitchen then, before the food is put on the table?

OP - you are creating a false dichotomy and demanding that your beliefs (and your IL's beliefs) be given privilege over your SIL's beliefs whenever you feel there is a conflict.  You don't have an objective basis on which to demand that, though I get it would make life more pleasant for you if she wasn't around or was silent about her beliefs and deferred to yours.

It's really simple to understand: she may be every bit as offended by the presumption that she will bow her head and remain silent while you (all) get to parade your Christianity openly as you are offended by her saying belief in a supernatural trinity is ridiculous.  You are asking her to be respectful of something she believes is ridiculous.

I am curious: have you ever had a meal in the house of someone with non-Christian beliefs, say, Islam?  Or perhaps Hindu?  Both of those religions have a form of "Grace" prayer.  How do you feel about participating in a Hindu prayer and remaining silent about your Christianity?

The fact that your ILs (parents) have a slightly different Christian theology/faith than you is not the same as being forced (by social pressure) to participate in something you feel is ridiculous.

Your SIL is still being a bit of an ass - the correct answer (in terms of good breeding and manners) is to be respectful of your host's beliefs and keep your mouth shut, and if you really feel their beliefs are dangerous and threatening (ie, you need to warn your kids about them) you simply don't go to their house as a guest.   This also isn't a fight between atheism and religion, different religions or even different theologies between denominations; this is about one person behaving insultingly towards others.  If you can't handle her, next time you get an invite, you simply decline and don't go.  Your husband (or whoever) needs to let her know she's being insulting and to knock it off (this doesn't include the FB postings).

These things get resolved in rather Solomonic fashion: either your ILs will let you opt out, or they'll tell her to knock it off (or un-invite her) - but either way, the drama queen will be the person excluded.[/quote]

It's tradition to pray over a meal.  You know this, and just feel like ignoring it, so the rest of your post has no validity.

By the way, I never said we were Christian.  Again, you assume something to make your anti-Christian argument.  It's tiring.[/quote]

Check your religious privilege.[/quote]

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