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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I had an issue similar to this with my DH, and we have had our discussions and I have come to terms with something; just want to share with you:

My DH is a GREAT guy.  He is a sucky nurse.  I also believe many, many (straight) men are sucky nurses; in general, women are so much better at this then men are.

It does not mean he doesn't care.  Don't take it as symbolic that he doesn't care.   It's very probable that he tries in ways that you don't appreciate (e.g. "well I washed the car for you").

So have your talk with him, so he "learns" what you think should be innate; how to care for a sick wife.  Also you need to learn that he'll never live up to your standards on this, so be ok with accepting less, or having to re-teach him periodically.

Also, coming to terms with this (for me) meant realizing that he won't be the old man hovering over me if I get sick in my old age--I'll need to hire someone and/or get help from (one of my two DDs--the other will be as worthless as DH on this issue).

Yes at first I was disappointed, but you know, we have a great marriage of almost 20 years, and we are crazy about each other, and I really have grown with respect to understanding this and OP, please do not blow it out of proportion.  But yes, talk to him.

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