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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think DH is disappointed that I don't cook dinner as part of the SAH gig. I hate meal planning and cooking. DS is 12 mos. He eats simple, decinstructed meals. I eat whatever is around. Cheese and crackers for lunch if I want. I have no expectation that DH produce dinner for me. I didn't have that expectation when we were both working, either.  I don't have a bunch of school-aged kids where we all need to sit around as a family. I really hate this expectation that I'm supposed to prepare food for a grown man now that [b]my job is raising our child[/b].  I was thinking of cooking tonight-we have this bag of potatos on the counter. If it were just me, I'd have a baked potato and a Diet Coke. But since I'm cooking for a "family" I have to produce something more ambitious - a baked potato "bar" or whatever. No thanks. I'm want to cook what I want to eat and not cater to what DH likes. Today he came home and asked what I made-I told him "nothing", and he went to the grocery store after working all day, and I don't really care. [/quote]

Your job is running the household. I'm not sure where you got this idea that staying home meant you're essentially a nanny. The job description is a lot more comprehensive than just child care.[/quote]

Huh? [b]Where did you see this? One of those 1950s how to be a good housewife books?[/b] "Make sure his slippers and a cocktail are waiting by the door for him."

Personally I do more household things now because I have some free time (yay preschool three mornings a week!) and I don't mind. But it's a nice extra, not a must do.

OP if you do go to the store you could pick up some food for your DH. Ask him for a list. Prepared foods might be a good option.

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No. It's common sense. This idea that SAHM means nothing else than intensive mothering is a bizarre (and lazy) derivative of the role. You can outsource nannying, so the person who stays home really does need to run the household. If all you want to be is a nanny, that's just really strange. It has nothing to do with 1950s stereotypes and everything to do with keeping a household (and family) functioning.

No one with a 12-month-old should have difficulty preparing simple meals or keeping up with housework (at the very least, keep your work space clean). If these tasks are too difficult, you're doing the mothering piece wrong. [/quote]

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