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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] I thought about it differently, if I find the person I'm with to be attractive and the chemistry is right I slept with him pretty early on, maybe date one, three or four.  If the chemistry and sex are lined up then the other parts of the relationship always seem to fall in line.  I've had three serious boyfriends and a number of casual hookups; when I was having sex with them I always knew what I was getting myself into. 
 I had sex with my husband approximately 90 minutes after meeting him, stone cold sober in the middle of the day at an apple orchard; that was 19 years ago. 
 
I went the long way around saying this; give yourself some rules if you like but if you feel it (that unmistakable inner pull towards someone) don't be afraid to break them. [/quote]

Interesting. I have to ask, and I mean this in a non-judgmental way, but was this unique? Or did you have sex with many men that quickly before finding the right one?[/quote]

There have only been two times in my life where I have come across someone where the chemistry was ultra intense;  I had sex with both of them very quickly.  My husband was a little under an hour and a half and the other man was less than 30 minutes; I obviously married my husband and the other one was a boyfriend for five years.
 During normal dating I would have sex when I felt it was right, I never denied myself anything and I very rarely got my feelings hurt, I may have just had a good read on the situation and didn't treat sex as a reward for commitment.  If the relationship is going to be casual I knew it was going to be casual and if I wanted to have sex with them I did.  If I wanted the relationship to be casual but I was pretty sure that he didn't I would tell him that before we got together;  I was always careful with my feelings as well as others  and that seems to have worked out pretty well.

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