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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Which RE? Would you consider a top clinic out of town? I don't think any of the local REs really specialize in DOR.

I'd talk to Dr. Davis at Cornell if using OE is important to you. If not, then maybe DE is an easier path to jump to. [/quote]

OP here.  I guess I kind of see it as maybe the fact that I have such awful numbers--undetectable AMH, high FSH, and bad antral follicle count, combined with the fact that I haven't gotten pregnant in 10 months of trying (using an OPK), means that mother nature is telling me that my own eggs are old and crappy and I shouldn't be trying to create a pregnancy where none was meant to be.  Does anyone else with DOR feel this way?

I guess I feel uncomfortable with the idea of ISCI, assisted hatching, etc.--if my eggs have a hard shell, and are resistant to fertilization the old fashioned way, well maybe that's because they're old and not meant to be fertilized.  Maybe if I do proceed and create a pregnancy with my old eggs through IVF, the baby won't be healthy (you can't tell about all health issues from PGD, or CVS or even amnio.)  They can test for chromosomal abnormalities, and genetic conditions but not mental health issues or autism, etc.

So I guess I'm leaning toward not feeling comfortable using my own eggs at this point, with the information I have about my bad numbers and the fact that I haven't gotten pregnant in almost a year of trying.  Donor eggs is much more appealing because I'd be using young and healthy eggs. [/quote]

10 months isn't really that long in the grand scheme of things. Normal couples only have a 20% chance of conceiving each cycle. And 6-12 months is not considered unusual to TTC.

I'd hate for you to make all of these big decisions based off of one single blood test and one single RE's opinion. I'd get a second opinion/bloodwork run. And personally I'd do at least one cycles - even just clomid & IUI - just to see how your body actually responds. A diagnostic cycle.

ICSI is for male factor issues.

You might want to talk to an IF therapist. 38 isn't that old and you seen to have some really negative feelings about your eggs right now. Remember one of them just made a baby fairly recently. There might be another good one in there.

But there are a lot of great options for DE too. PP had some good advice.

And if you end up with an only that is completely fine too. The good thing about kids is that they are so resilient/adaptable and can handle many different environments. [/quote]

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