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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP, I'm an only too and I have to agree with a PP that maybe you should not project your only experience on your daughter. Like you, I was an only who didn't have any relatives nearby growing up. My parents didn't have many friends, and often it was just the three of us. But I've always been fine with being an only...the difference I see is that I made my friends...my parents didn't have anything to do with my making friends. I spent time at friends houses, I was in Girl Scouts, joined sports teams even though I was horribly un-athletic. So in moving forward, maybe encourage your daughter to make friends, do things with them, join groups and activities she enjoys. She can build a set of relationships organically. Maybe address the issue of you making friends separately...while it's nice to have friends with kids near in age, I don't really subscribe to the idea of making adult friends through your kids.[/quote]
I am with you, pp. I am also an only child and growing up it was often just my parents and me. My extended family didn't live close by. But that was okay with me. I always had friends and felt loved. Please don't project your own experience onto your kid. If you need help looking on the bright side, honesty maybe a therapist would be helpful.
Things to think about - you don't need to make entire family friends. My best friends were my friends growing up. I made my friends at school and daycare, not classes I took with my mom. Also, you sound lonely yourself. What do you like to do? Go do that! You will probably have better luck making friends that way than just finding other people with kids. And maybe it will help you to know that you and your family are perfect just as you are. Your family doesn't look like you thought it would - but that's true of a lot of people. And life in general. You need to work on finding happiness in the now. Good luck to you![/quote]

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