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[quote=Anonymous]We don't accept financial help because DH and I live lives we can afford on our salaries.  I know my parents would help if we had a major financial crisis like long-term unemployment, major medical bills, etc. but the greatest gift they give us is just that they are financially well off to not need us to help them (That was not the case with our ILs who have now passed away).

We recently did a big home renovation and we could cover the whole thing ourselves but my parents did distribute to us at that time my share of an inheritance from my grandmother (my dad happened to sell her property around the same time).  DH initially though the money was coming as "help" from my parents and didn't want to accept it. When he understood it wasn't parental charity but an inheritance he was OK with it.

I think there is a big difference between a parent regularly subsidizing their kids in living a life they can't afford on their own vs. occasional generous gifts, grandkids education, etc.  If your parents are paying your cellphone bill or your mortgage payment you need to grow up and start living within your means. It's just infantilizing. Have some self-respect.[/quote]

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